Friday, October 15, 2010

My Quality Man...

Earlier today, I was perusing Twitter, and the following question came up: "Women, what is your idea of a quality man, besides deep pockets." I thought about this. I know my readers are rolling their eyes thinking, "She's thinking about Tony Gonzalez or Shawne Merriman." LOL...No... When I look into my crystal ball and try to see the quality man of my future, neither of them are in the equation. I think most guys think that every girl is desperate to get married.

Women in bridal gowns take part in a parade for newly wed brides in the Black Sea port city of Odessa May 23, 2010. Some 50 women, who got married in the days before the parade, took part in the event. REUTERS/Yevgeny Volokin (UKRAINE - Tags: SOCIETY)

Well, I'm not desperate to get married. Don't get me wrong, I would like to get married someday, but for the right reasons. Not because someone thinks I should. Besides, I think a gentleman must be involved. So until he appears, this is my ideal quality man.

He doesn't have to be rich, but he does have to have a job. While I prefer a job with a suit and a tie, I will accept a laborer who is seeking to advance and better himself. If you are content with being a janitor at the Stop and Shop or a night shift security guard-Keep it moving...I want a guy at least in the same salary range as me. Since I don't expect you to take care of me, I'm sure as H-E-Double Hockey Sticks not taking care of you.

I want a spiritual guy. Notice, I didn't say a religious guy. Spiritual guys are those who understand the concept of spirituality without falling into hypocrisy. Sue me. Look at all of the adulterous Bible-thumpers. I want someone who has read the Bible, understands the passages, and apply them to his everyday life. Not someone who is crawling to church after rubbing every girl at the club the night before, NO THANKS.

I want an educated man. Self-educated, college-educated, I don't care as long as he is educated, and seeks to constantly improve himself.

I want a man who is accepting of all people. I mean, ALL people, not just a few. I have relatives and friends that fall into mentally challenged, physically challenged, mental disorders, homosexual, transvestite, and all races. I love them all, because of who they are, and how they have help to shape my life.

I want a man who understands that I may not want to have a child. Honestly, I'd rather adopt. There are so many wonderful children who need a good home that I would prefer that route than natural children.

I want a man who acts and dresses like a grown up. I don't want someone who is over thirty and dressing like Lil Wayne. I don't want to see your underwear when you are standing or sitting down. That's for later. I want a guy who knows how to tie his own tie (cause I don't) and wears one at the appropriate times.

I want a man who understands that at times I need to be alone. A-L-O-N-E. That means, no people. I need it. I spend almost 9 hours a day with people. I need at least an hour or so alone. I want my own bathroom and closet, too. That is non-negotiable.

I want a man who will not refer to me as a wifey, dime, or whatever. Those titles are disrespectful to me. I don't want a man who will refer to a woman's anatomy as t*ts or p**sy or refer to his privates at all. I don't need you describing all the various sex acts, you are great at. One, because I'm a virgin, how the heck would I know you weren't, and two, my mother told me that men who talk about it too much probably aren't getting it as much as they say, and they probably suck. I don't want those words coming out of your mouth, outside of the bedroom, where they belong. They don't belong in music, polite conversation, or twitter. If you are a great lover, you will show me, not tell me, and not until you respect me.

I want a man who understands that I don't want to talk to you during the game, unless it is about the game. I don't care what game is on. I would prefer a Chiefs fan, but I will settle for a football fan who preferably doesn't root for Dallas, Denver, Oakland or San Diego, unless they can handle my constant hatred for their teams. A real man can handle the fact that I hate his team. Deal with it.

Ultimately, I want a man who respects me. Respect me enough not to lie to me. If you want to move on, say so. Respect me enough to treat me like a queen, and I will treat you like a king.

I want a man who loves me so much, that when he takes those vows, he's not just saying them, he means them with all of his heart. That's all I want...

Until next time, "I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best."~Marilyn Monroe

1 comment:

  1. "I want an educated man. Self-educated, college-educated, I don't care as long as he is educated, and seeks to constantly improve himself." <--- Totally agree with that statement.